Dear Angry,

Oct 29

A love letter to an angry yogi.

What do you do when you are having a fiery moment?😡🔥

Opening up to the spectrum of your feelings or being a sensitive person who experiences everything x1000 can be really A LOT sometimes.

Or a lot of the time, in my experience.

This is why I have committed so much energy to understanding nervous system regulation and emotional intelligence because us sensitive souls need understanding and support, too.

I’m in the you are not too much club, and there is space for all of you here committee 🙌🏻

Being a yogi, being spiritual, and being a kind person does not mean you have to be happy, calm, and pleasant all the time.

Part of a mindfulness practice can be observing your anger, pain, and discontentment. It is OK to be pissed off when a boundary has been crossed, when someone is being hurtful, and when things just don't make any sense.

Let's remember we are human, with the capacity to have a wide range of emotions and experiences.

Part of my practice is to feel into the tough stuff and try not to avoid or run from it. This is not easy because anger, overwhelm, and frustration are downright uncomfortable. (insert doom scrolling….just not yet, keep reading)

And yes, taking a break to not be in an uncomfortable feeling all the time is ok, too (love getting lost in a fabulous book or movie). Then, come back to explore what you are feeling. It is helpful to start to recognize the signals your body is telling you about how you feel so that you can make choices that are supportive to you.

Yoga, mindfulness, and caring for my basic needs have been immensely helpful to me when navigating the tough shit. Here are some questions I ask myself to help guide me through:

What can I do with this feeling?

What is my anger telling me?

Is this mine to hold and work through, or is it someone else's?
Can I describe or notice the sensations in my body?

Where are the edges of unhelpful fear, anxiety, and worry…and what is informative anger?

What will I do with this information?

What do I need to regulate my body and mind so I can be more responsive than reactive?

Yoga ethics teach us Ahimsa (non-harm) and Satya (truth) as well as Svadhyaya (self-study), just to name a few….

So if you reflect on how you feel and what you need, and your truth is you are pissed off and what you do about it is not causing harm, then let's channel that energy into helpful solutions. Let's use that information to get to know ourselves and our boundaries better. Let's clearly communicate what we need.

Your rage is sacred, too.

So, just a little reminder: you can be a peaceful yogi and still be angry sometimes. The yoga is in what you do with it.

Love you with a 🔥🔥🔥 passion.

Megan